Some neuroscientists go so far as to say that we have on brain but two minds — or even, two people living inside our mind. There’s the version of us that acts on impulse and seeks immediate gratification and the version of us that controls our impulses and delays gratification to protect our long-term goals.
___ Глава «Too tired to resist: why self-control is like muscle» ___
Modern life is full of self-control demands that can drain your willpower. Researchers have found that self-control is highest in the morning and steadily deteriorates over the course of the day. By the time you get to the stuff that really matters to you, you may find yourself out of willpower.
Get used to pausing before acting.
Our challenge is to train like an intelligent athlete, pushing our limits but also pacing ourselves.
___ Глава «License to sin: why being good gives us permission to be bad „___
Making progress on a goal motivates people to engage in goal-sabotaging behaviour.
When you want to change a behaviour, aim to reduce the variability in your behaviour, not the behaviour itself.
It’s hard to get out of bed when you can’t imagine that anything you do will make you feel good.
___ Глава “What the hell effect „___
The brain is especially susceptible to temptation when we’re feeling bad. => so look for stress-relief
The most effective stress-relief strategies are exercising or playing sports, praying or attending a religious service, reading, listening to music, spending time with friends or family, getting a massage, going outside for a walk, meditating or doing yoga and spending time with a creative hobby. We underestimate how good they will make us feel.
Giving in makes you feel bad about yourself, which motivates you to do something to feel better. And what’s the cheapest fastest strategy for feeling better? Often the very thing you feel bad about.
___ Глава “Putting the future on sale: economics of instant gratification „___
10 minutes rule: for a coolers, wiser brain, institute a mandatory ten-minute wait for any temptation. If, in 10 minutes, you still want it, you can have it — but before 10 minutes are up, bring to mind the competing long-term reward that will come with resisting temptation.
How long a 4-year-old waited in the marshmallow test predicted that child’s academic and social success ten years later.
Shelling believed that to reach our goals we must limit our options.
When it comes to getting other people to commit something, you can take advantage of the future-self bias by asking them to commit far in advance.
High-future continuity seems to propel people to be the best version of themselves now.
___ Глава “Infected! Why willpower is contagious „___
When one person gave up cigarettes, it increased the odds that their friends and family would quit too. Are there certain people you’re more likely to indulge with?
New strategy for discouraging unhealthy behaviour: just convince people it’s the habit of a group they would never want to be a member of.
___ Глава “Don’t read this chapter» ___
When you stop trying to control unwanted thoughts and emotions, they stop controlling you.
The more depressed people try to block out distressing thoughts, the more depressed they get.
Сила воли подобна мышце, которую необходимо тренировать.
Развивайте привычку делать паузу и думать перед тем, как что-либо делать. Если вы собираетесь сделать что-то, о чем впоследствии, возможно, будете жалеть, подождите 10 минут.
Выводить из равновесия (сбивать с пути развития самодисциплины) может как прогресс к целям (рассуждения типа “я и так столько сделал — могу немного расслабиться”), так и провалы (“раз уж дал слабину, ну и пропади всё пропадом, буду курить дальше”). => необходимо снижать изменчивость своего поведения.
Человек чаще поддается соблазну тогда, когда подавлен, находится в стрессовом состоянии, чувствует себя усталым. => чтобы быть дисциплинированным необходимы занятия спортом, занятия, снимающие стресс.
Как дисциплинированное так и недисциплинированные поведение “заразны” и передаются от человека к человеку. => фильтруйте круг общения и окружайте себя дисциплинированными людьми.
Часто подавление в себе нежелательных мыслей приводит к обратному эффекту. Порой стоит наоборот пойти им на встречу, обдумать всё, и эти мысли перестанут беспокоить.
прочел с удовольствием
Продолжай.
ты ж ее вообще выкинул сначала, сказал говно и читать не стал